On The Day of the Wedding

by Errolyn

The dear dear went around looking for a Christmas present for me last Monday. He was on leave and we were supposed to meet at a mall for dinner. Arriving early, he figured it was a great opportunity to take some time out to shop for his wife-to-be!

When he first told me, I thought he wanted to buy something to accompany the Proposal……but no, he only wanted to give me something because we hadn't done anything for ourselves (well, I wouldn't go THAT far ;) ) recently. Which is just so sweeet!

In fact, I thought the same thing just a few days before - that we had been so busy planning for the wedding and arranging to meet vendors and obsessing about prices that we hadn't just laughed and dated…..And that is the crux of the post today - remember the romance, remember WHY you are getting married - if things don't go perfectly on the Actual Day, it really doesn’t matter - in fact it will add to your memory of the very special day. I am usually so anal about stuff like this but surprisingly, I'm quite relaxed about the Actual Day events. I have a rough idea of how I want it to run and that's about it.

Perhaps it's cos we're only having a small intimate party with close friends and family and I feel it is more manageable and I don't have to 'put on a show' for 1000 guests. These are our friends and their only thoughts and feelings and memories of the day should be that "2 people who love each other are pledging their commitment to each other and I'm there to witness it because the happy couple Want me there!". Hence, less pressure on me - I want the day to be filled with laughter, not rigid formality. I want to be myself and to be able to laugh and cry and shout and run….ooooh…my heart feels so full now as I describe how I envision it.

I want to sit next to my mum and dad and hold their hands and tell them that they have given me the world and that I don't want them to worry about me anymore because I have found someone wonderful to share my life with. I want to tell them that I miss them so much when they are not by my side and that I will always love them beyond their wildest expectations. I will tell them I am the person I am today because of them and thank them for moulding me and yet giving me the space and opportunities I needed to grow into myself.

Mum and dad have raised me well enough to recognise Ju Han for the man that he is and they have inspired in me the strength and patience and love to live with him, grow with him and accept him as he is. (Hey, people writing love story here, don't 'ahem ahem' ok!!!)

And my sis, I want to hug her and hug her and hug her and tell her I want this for her. I want her to marry a man worthy of her who will honour her, and respect her and love her. I miss her far more than she knows and am more proud of her than I can even begin to describe - yeah, this is the sis who went on ASEAN and Bachelor's and Masters' and Deans' Lists…..thank god I am the eldest I always say, for I wouldn't be able to fill her shoes.

I am blessed!

Finally, I wanna recap - don't sweat the small stuff - your life is 'waiting' for you. Go out there, grab it and run! Honestly, nobody remembers someone else's wedding 5 years from now - the only one who will remember it is YOU so choose wisely, how you want to remember yourself!