WHADDYA MEAN 2 WEEKS???!!

by Errolyn

Ok, well, it's like 2 weeks to the wedding and I am scarily calm. I think…. Yesterday 1 wrote about 4 weepy emails to my girlfriends wondering what to do about aspects of our wedding dinner and lamenting about the myriad of things that could go wrong. I also sent 1, just one, SOS email to Ju Han - at work. Now you know it was bad…..but the sweetheart called me and reassured me, he reminded me why we were doing the dinner and what was great about it. So I ….ummm…well, I tried to get less agitated.

It's only 2 more weeks, meaning effectively there are only 4 days to complete preparations for the wedding. Saturday, Sunday, Saturday and Sunday. We still have to order the wedding favours, collect them, talk to the restaurateur and finalise many many details, detail work duty for those helping us - driver, usher, reception, angpow person (apparently…??!!!???), plan and book the honeymoon, worry about seating the many wonderful friends who are coming, worry if they will like the venue and food, worry if our itinerary is good enough, refine the itinerary, fear the temperaments of various pieces of electronic equipment which usually fail when you need them the most and of course remind myself at least once during the dinner, to enjoy myself, besides other things of course.

I'm so scared. I am seriously scared. I am not having sleepless nights anymore, and my skin isn't bad (cross fingers) but there just seems to be so much to do and I am afraid I can't do them all. Do all brides feel like this? I was just telling a colleague that if I can get stressed out (me being a really easy going bride) then I wonder what the 'plan it down to the T, 13 months ago' bride goes through.

I am SURE every bride goes through this because a dinner is basically more than just a celebration of a marriage. It is where the bride lays herself bare (those without a wedding planner of course - like moi) and actually enables so many people to criticise her, her taste, her style, her planning, you name it. So, knowing that, the game is now to either let that affect me, or to tell myself, I can't please everyone - myself, my husband, my mum, his mum, that cranky old auntie sitting in the corner. So either, I just pick myself up, put on my thick face and enjoy myself or I turn Bridezilla and rampage at poor ole' hubby.

(Now, I must elect a few friends to read that paragraph back to me whenever I am getting frazzled on the day. )

I just read on the internet that we must plan to seat 105% of our RSVP because apparently people turn up. Yup, so, don't be too anal like me and expect RSVPs by the due date and that the numbers will be exact. I was naïve. I should make the theme of the wedding - CHANGE is CONSTANT! HHehehehehahaaha.

But really, I just want to sit down and enjoy the wedding and being with people I care about - my friends are flying all the way from around the world, Ju Han's as well, friends from past workplaces - it will be good to see them again. I only wish I could invite everyone I know and have everyone come but I know that not having some friends around during the dinner doesn't mean they aren't important to me and v.v.

We have a lot to do, period; but we better just have fun and enjoy the ride. Because at the end of the day, doing anything else would just not be worth it!

Aiyaks, just thought of some other stuff - pick up the outfits, deco the car, order flowers, get nails done, worry about the tea set for the tea ceremony, let others scare me about muggers going after my wedding gold and angpows….what else…I am SURE I am missing lots out - I will find out what they are on the day I guess. Heheahehahahaahaha…..

So far, I have finalised some items with my Make Up Artist Joan - she's been nice and helpful and my photographer Lucas who understands what we want for scenes from the wedding. Mmmm…..

I put up a new site for Handy Help - 'what to expect on your wedding day' was a good thing to read and will now go on to '15 financial issues we need to discuss'.